š Birth Chart Hacks: How to Make an āIncompatibleā Relationship Work
In Vedic astrology, Kundli matching plays a vital role in determining compatibility between partners. But what if your charts donāt align perfectly? Does that mean the relationship is doomed? Absolutely not! Even astrologically “incompatible” couples can build lasting bonds with a little insight, awareness, and the right remedies.
Letās dive into how you can make an āincompatibleā relationship thrive with some smart astrological hacks and spiritual guidance.
š What Does ‘Incompatibility’ Mean in Astrology?
Incompatibility in astrology usually refers to a mismatch in the Ashtakoota system of Kundli matching. Some common red flags include:
- Low Guna score (out of 36 points)- A low Guna score generally means that the couple may have poor astrological compatibility, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually and could face difficulties in understanding, adjustment, or long-term harmony.
- Nadi or Bhakoot dosha- Nadi or Bhakoot Dosha are two major incompatibilities in Kundli matching that can significantly affect marital harmony. Nadi Dosha, arising when both partners share the same Nadi type (Adi, Madhya, or Antya), indicates imbalance in health, genetics, or childbearing potential. Bhakoot Dosha occurs when the Moon signs form unfavorable positions like 6ā8, 9ā5, or 12ā2, causing emotional, financial, or compatibility issues.
- Conflicting Moon signs or elements (fire vs water)- It occurs when partnersā emotional energies clash due to incompatible zodiac elementsāsuch as Fire (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and Water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces). The Moon governs feelings, instincts, and emotional needs, so when its elemental nature conflicts, it can create misunderstandings or mood imbalances. Fire signs seek excitement and freedom, while Water signs crave security and emotional depth.
- Harsh planetary aspects (like Mars or Saturn afflictions)- Harsh planetary aspects, especially involving Mars or Saturn, can create significant tension in a horoscope and affect relationships, health, or overall life stability. When Mars forms negative aspects (like conjunction or opposition) with the Moon, Venus, or the 7th house, it can lead to Manglik Dosha, causing anger, impatience, or conflict in marriage. Similarly, Saturnās afflictions bring delays, emotional distance, or a sense of burden in relationships. Ā
But hereās the truth, these issues donāt always spell disaster. Astrology is a guide, not a life sentence.
š ļø Birth Chart Hacks to Fix Relationship Imbalances
1. Strengthen Venus and Moon (Planets of Love & Emotion)
To strengthen Venus and Moon, focus on harmony, beauty, and calm emotions. For example, wear white or pastel clothes on Fridays and Mondays, offer milk or sweets to Goddess Lakshmi, and practice compassion.
Remedies:
- Wear a silver chain or moonstone on Monday for Moon strength
- Fast on Fridays or donate white items (like rice or sweets) to women
- Chant the Shukra Beej Mantra: āOm Draam Dreem Droum Sah Shukraya Namahā
2. Balance Your Elemental Signs
If one partner is fire-dominant (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) and the other is water-dominant (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces), emotional clashes may arise. Fire signs act passionately and impulsively, while water signs feel deeply and need security. Without understanding, this mix creates tension, but with empathy, it can spark powerful emotional and creative growth.
Practical Tips:
- Practice grounding activities like joint meditation, gardening, or water rituals
- Understand your partner’s natural response systemāfire signs need space, water signs need security
3. Check the 7th House ā House of Marriage
Your 7th house and its ruling planet reveal how you behave in long-term partnerships. A malefic in this house can create tension. When a malefic planet like Mars, Saturn, or Rahu occupies this house, it may bring misunderstandings, ego clashes, or emotional distance, requiring conscious effort, patience, and mutual respect for harmony.
Remedies:
- Offer water to the rising Sun every morning (IST 6:00ā6:45 AM)
- Lighting a ghee diya beneath a Peepal tree on Saturday evening is believed to pacify Saturnās malefic influence
- Chanting ‘Om Namah Shivaya’ helps cultivate balanced, harmonious, and spiritually aligned relationships
š§æ Common Doshas & Their Remedies
ā Bhakoot Dosha
This can lead to financial or emotional imbalance, where one partner may feel unsupported or burdened. Such planetary tension can create instability in shared goals, trust, and emotional security, making open communication and mutual understanding essential to restore balance and maintain harmony in the relationship.
Solution:
- Perform a Navagraha Shanti Puja
- Offer grains to cows on Mondays and Thursdays
ā Nadi Dosha
Related to health and fertility concerns, as certain planetary afflictions in the 7th house or its ruler may affect reproductive well-being or create stress that impacts physical vitality. Strengthening benefic influences and maintaining emotional harmony can help support overall health and marital stability.
Solution:
- Donate clothes and food to Brahmins or poor children
- Recite the Mahamrityunjaya Mantra daily (108 times)
ā Mangal Dosha (Kuja Dosha)
A strong Mars can cause temper and dominance issues,Ā making one partner assertive, impatient, or controlling in relationships. While it brings passion and drive, unchecked Martian energy may spark conflicts. Balancing it with calm communication and empathy helps transform aggression into confidence and protective strength.
Solution:
- Visit Hanuman Mandir every Tuesday (preferably around IST 7:00 AM)
- Recite Hanuman Chalisa or Sundarkand regularly
š« Practical Tips for Couples with Mismatched Charts
Even if the stars say “no,” your choices still matter. Here are down-to-earth ways to strengthen your bond:
š± Build Emotional Intelligence
Understand your partnerās Moon signāit governs their inner world. Example, while a Cancer Moon longs for emotional security and nurturing, a Gemini Moon is energized by engaging dialogue and intellectual connection.
š Use Rituals for Reconnection
- Light a diya together every evening to build shared energy- Ā This simple ritual invites positivity, peace, and divine blessings into your home. As the flame burns, it symbolizes unity, two souls joining their light to dispel negativity, strengthen emotional bonds, and nurture love through daily mindful connection.
- Do a simple Lakshmi Narayan puja on Fridays for divine harmony in marriage
šæ Daily Mantra Practice Together
Mantras are not just spiritual tools but energetic harmonizers. Try chanting together for a few minutes daily. Shared spiritual practice builds a cosmic connection beyond the chart. When chanted together, they align your vibrations, calm emotions, and dissolve hidden tensions. Devote just a few minutes each day to this shared practice, whether itās ą„ ą¤Øą¤®ą¤ ą¤¶ą¤æą¤µą¤¾ą¤ÆĀ or Mahamrityunjaya Mantra, to build a cosmic connection beyond the chart, deepening love and understanding.
šļø Vedic Wisdom: Not All Karma Is Fixed
“ą¤Øą¤æą¤Æą¤¤ą¤ ą¤ą„ą¤°ą„ ą¤ą¤°ą„ą¤® ą¤¤ą„ą¤µą¤” ā Bhagavad Gita
(Do your duty, for action is better than inaction.)
Your chart shows tendencies, not certainties. Conscious effort, spiritual remedies, and loving actions can change even the hardest alignments. With conscious effort, spiritual remedies, and consistent love, even challenging astrological combinations can transform into sources of strength, helping you build harmony, understanding, and lasting happiness in relationships.
š§ Final Thoughts
Astrological compatibility is a helpful guide, but itās not the final verdict. Real love thrives on compassion, communication, and conscious effort. With the right birth chart hacks and Vedic remedies, even an āincompatibleā relationship can bloom into a soul-deep connection.
Donāt give up because the charts donāt match. Instead, work with the stars to co-create a stronger relationship. By co-creating with cosmic guidance, you can build a stronger, more conscious relationship.
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